Here are 10 Signs Someone Is Walking All Over You

1. The Pressure to Say Yes

One of the worst signs of somebody going over your head is when they pressure you into doing whatever they want. You might not feel comfortable saying no, or their pressure and manipulation makes you believe not helping out is going to have a massively negative effect on this other person’s life. If someone is pushing you to the point that you want to say no, but feel bad about doing it, you know how embarrassing and uncomfortable it can be. “Whatever makes you feel uncomfortable, simply say no, you will thank yourself later. Practice saying “no” to smaller requests, then build from there.

2. Settling for Less

Another top indicator that someone is walking all over you is when they put pressure on you to accept less. If you discover that someone is trying to pressure you into settling for less than what you want or deserve, that is a red flag. When you accept to settle for less than you want, you are setting a really bad precedent. It is like having a sign put up on your back saying, Kick me, except this time, it says, Let me down, I am okay with that. Yes, be open to compromise — just don’t let anyone talk you into why you don’t deserve to be treated fairly and thoughtfully. 

3. Gaslighting and Lies

Gaslighting is when someone lies to you about why something is not going well, or even makes you believe that it is your fault. An example of this might be the husband who is cheating, then getting upset with his wife, calling her paranoid or criticizing for accusing him of having an affair. He would then proceed to accuse her of having the affair, or claiming her behaviour made him want an affair, when in fact she did not. If these things are happening regularly with you, you are letting people walk all over you. The proper reaction to lies and gaslighting is to call them out! and then to walk away if the other person refuses to stop. There is no reason you should have to put up with verbal or psychological abuse, even by someone you love. If you are being gaslit, you have every right to walk out the exit door. Other people’s pathological issues are not your problems.

4. One-Sided Friendships

They are about being there for your friends, while your friends are rarely, or never, there for you. The best way to deal with that is simply saying “no” to a one-sided friendship. I am not suggesting that you give up friendships every time things do not work out perfectly, or if your friends are bothersome. If we all did this, no one would have friends. But if there is a discernible pattern over the long-term that your friends are draining you emotionally,mentally, or otherwise, it is up to you to put an end to this friendship.

5. Excuses, Excuses

They always have an excuse for their behaviour or actions. If someone is constantly making excuses for their behaviour or actions instead of taking responsibility, it’s a sign that they are not respecting you or your relationship. It’s important to set boundaries and make it clear that their excuses are not acceptable. It’s not hard to be accountable!

6. Taking Advantage of Kindness

They take advantage of your kindness. If someone is always asking for favours or taking advantage of your generosity without reciprocating, it’s a sign that they are not valuing your time or efforts. It’s important to communicate your needs and expectations in any relationship.

7. Disregarding Your Needs

They ignore your feelings or needs. If someone consistently disregards your feelings or needs, it’s a sign that they are not respecting you as a person. It’s important to assert yourself and communicate your boundaries in any relationship.

8. One-Sided Decision Making

They make decisions without consulting you. If someone is making important decisions without considering your input or opinions, it’s a sign that they don’t value your input or respect your relationship. It’s important to communicate your desire for mutual decision-making and compromise.

9. Guilt-Tripping

They make you feel guilty for expressing your needs or desires. If someone makes you feel guilty for expressing your needs or desires, it’s a sign that they are not respecting your boundaries or valuing your opinion. It’s important to communicate your needs and desires assertively and without guilt.

10. Criticism and Belittling

They constantly criticize or belittle you. If someone is constantly criticizing or belittling you, it’s a sign that they are not respecting you as a person. It’s important to stand up for yourself and communicate your boundaries in any relationship.